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16770 - Learn to Say No

Learn to Say No

by: David Wood

How many times have you agreed to do something that you actually didn?t want to do? For someone at work? Your friends? Even your spouse? All you had to do was say no, but the word didn?t come out. So you end up doing it?and later resent it.
A coaching client said to me she was agreeing to things she didn?t want to do, but for some reason, she felt obliged to do them. Instead of taking enjoyment in the task, she would later feel angry with herself and resentful towards the person she had said ?yes? to.
So then she went on to list further reasons why she wanted to say no. I stopped her by saying, ?You are even justifying yourself to me!? We feel we have to justify ourselves and give extremely good reasons for saying no. Even when the reason is simply: ?I don?t want to.?
Check-in With Yourself
I asked my client what was one thing she could do to work on this. She suggested she start checking in with herself before saying yes or no. You can ask yourself, ?Is this right for me?? Support yourself in doing what feels right and well with you. And if it?s not something for you, try expressing that no.
Have Fun With It!
Saying no doesn?t have to be serious or angry. My client also wanted to lighten up, so I recommended she try stirring it up a little, to have fun with it. You can try out different responses like, ?Nope, never as long as I live? or ?Baby sit your kids - are you crazy?? What are some other great responses you can try to make 'saying no' more fun?
Make a List
I suggested my client list the areas and people in her life where she had the most trouble saying no. I told her it was up to her what to do with that list. Where do you have trouble saying no? Is it perhaps time to have some honest conversations with people?
Try this: ?This is what I have been doing. I have been saying yes, when I have wanted to say no. I am starting to feel resentful and I don?t want to feel that way. I don't want to offend you, and I need to start listening to myself.? At the very least, they will have a heads-up that things might be a little different from now one. And - it helps you make an internal shift.
Taking the Plunge
So what is the worst that could happen by saying no? You might lose some people in your life who are used to you doing what they want. Living an authentic life can seem tough. Sometimes there will be unwelcome consequences.
And I say: Bring on the consequences! In the end, it?s worth it.
Enjoy,
David Wood

David Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful Free Download: '50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of Your Life and Help Your Clients'. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook: '10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets' and his audio ebook: 'Getting Your First 50 Clients'.
'David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy - a global coach training school'
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David Wood is a Certified Life Coach. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook at http://10SuperCoaches.com and his audio ebook at http://www.FirstFiftyClients.com. Get his new Free Download ?50 Power Questions? and popular monthly ezine for clients and coaches (now over 15,000 subscribers) at: http://www.solutionbox.com/freedownload.htm.
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This article was posted on March 29, 2005

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